We Love Our Clients

As Valentine’s Day approaches, a day symbolizing love and relationships, we at Cain, Cain & Janik celebrate the life-long relationships we have developed with our clients, our client’s helpers and our client’s families. In the spirit of this special day, we celebrate these unique relationships.

At Cain, Cain & Janik, our clients are much more than a transaction. We believe in a partnership that goes beyond the standard client-attorney interaction. Our approach is built on mutual learning and shared experiences. We take pride in educating our clients about the law. But, more importantly, we listen. Our clients enrich us with insights about their families, their aspirations, and their assets. Guided by our client’s stories and goals, we use our legal expertise to develop estate plans that not only meet the individual goals and needs of our clients but also provide for the people they love and the causes they support.

This Valentine’s Day, we extend our heartfelt thanks to our clients. Our client’s trust and partnership motivate us to strive to do our very best work. Together, we create more than estate plans; we create lasting legacies.

We thank our clients for being a part of the Cain, Cain & Janik family. Here’s to a relationship that grows stronger with each passing year.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Life, Learning, and Legal Updates

Dear Clients and Friends of Cain, Cain & Janik,

Just like the half of our clients who planned in odd years and received their 2023 CUP letter, it was Marty’s and my year to participate in the Client Update Program (otherwise known as the Red Book Meeting) and update our own Revocable Living Trusts. Just like our clients, we have changes in our “Life”, we have changes in our “Learning”, and we are subject to changing “Laws”.

Life Changes

Since we last updated our own trusts, Marty and I have experienced some happy life changes. This past fall our youngest son, Brooks, was married to Sarah Richardson in Charlottesville, Virginia in a beautiful autumn ceremony celebrated by friends and family. We are so happy to have Sarah as part of our family. The good news continued as Brooks graduated from the OU College of Law on May 14th. After taking the Oklahoma bar exam this summer, Brooks will begin a one-year clerkship in the United States District Court for the Western District of Oklahoma with Senior Judge David Russell.

There are only a few hundred of these federal clerkships throughout the nation and many, many law graduates vying for these positions. We are very proud of Brooks.

Changes in Learning

In 2023 year we helped my 86-year-old father downsize from his two-story home to an assisted living apartment. Decisions were made by family members to determine which personal possessions would go to furnish the new apartment, which possessions would be gifted, and which possessions would be sold. We worked to furnish the new apartment and make it feel like home. We located a buyer for the former residence and helped prepare it for sale. Although it has been a very difficult year for my father and our family with the loss of his longtime companion, I’m glad to report that he is happy in his new living situation and has made many new friends in his new community. This experience with my father was a learning experience for me because it certainly made me realize how very, very important instructions are to the person or persons actually tasked with making the decisions on someone’s behalf. It is an awesome responsibility.

This learning experience is definitely going to make me take another look at my own special instructions this CUP season. I plan to take another stab at my own Special Stuff list so that my trustee will know exactly which items I consider to be “special” and who I want to receive these special items. This same “Learning” also applies to Health Care Instructions and Final Arrangements. Your trust and Health Care Power of Attorney give your loved ones the legal authority to make certain health care and living situation decisions for you. But I learned first-hand that it is such a help to your decision-makers if you have also given them guidance about how or where you want to be cared for, along with any other special wishes you may have. The same is true for leaving specific instructions in your Final Arrangements. They let your family know that they are carrying out your wishes. Changes in Law. We’re watching those for you 

In closing, forget what they say about the “Cobbler’s children having no shoes”. Just like you, I’m appreciative to have the reminder when it is my year to update my own estate plan and to make sure that my own plan is consistent with my Life, my Learning, and the current Laws.

Sincerely, Tamara Cain

A Holiday Message from Cain, Cain & Janik

Dear Clients and friends of Cain, Cain & Janik,

The season of giving is a perfect time to reflect on the things we are really giving our families and our loved ones. Cain, Cain & Janik has helped you develop an estate plan that lets you give "what you want, to who you want, when you want". Of course, when you think of your estate plan, you think of your real property, your accounts, your personal property, etc. I want to talk about something more valuable: your traditions and rituals. A tradition is something we do again and again that gives meaning to our lives. It is something that adults teach their children, who then grow up and teach it to their children; traditions connect us to a shared heritage with our family, friends, and community. Traditions help anchor and ground us, helping us feel more balanced and stable amid the whirlwind and chaos of our lives. 

Marty and I were blessed to grow up with parents that valued family. Each Christmas Eve, Marty, Stephen, Brooks and I, spend the day in Anadarko with Marty's parents and his sister and her family. We spend the day visiting, opening gifts, and having a wonderful meal together. Each year, we attend the same beautiful candlelight Christmas Eve service at Marty's family's church, with the same family friends, with the same soloist, who sings the same Christmas Carol, O Holy Night. This tradition never changes. It never gets old. It gives my family comfort that things can stay the same. 

Traditions adapt to the times, too. When our children were younger, Christmas Eve had me working like an elf in Santa’s workshop. I would cook, prepare for our guests, and make the last minute Christmas magic happen. Now that our boys are older (and yes, I'm a little older, too) these same Christmas Day preparations have become our family tradition.

When we walk in the door from Anadarko, Marty starts the Christmas music.  We pull out the crystal champagne flutes, open a bottle of sparkling wine, and toast to our family and the families we come from.  Stephen browns the sausage for the "traditional" Christmas breakfast casserole (my mom’s recipe is included in this newsletter. Stephen saw the addition of green chilies as a huge break with tradition. I’ll let you decide!). The extra leaf goes in the formal dining room table, which Brooks sets with a festive tablecloth, cloth napkins, china, and crystal. Marty gets out the crock-pot for the steel-cut oats that will cook overnight. I prepare the pecans, turbinado sugar, fresh strawberries, and cream, which perfectly accompany the steel-cut oats (a tradition I brought back from a December trip to New York with girlfriends). Each year, our traditional preparations result in a lovely Christmas breakfast with my Dad and Nadine and a beautiful candlelit Christmas dinner with my mom and siblings. 

Stephen and Brooks have learned that family is important and that traditions are a way of communicating love for one another. They have learned that sharing a meaningful meal together (that we have all had a part in preparing) is a ritual worth repeating. I learned this lesson from my grandmother, who served us beautiful meals despite her fixed income.  Yes, paper plates in the breakfast room would be easier, and paper napkins would mean less laundry… but traditions aren’t always the easiest. I hope my boys learn that you never outgrow the need for tradition, just like I did.

Holiday cheers,

Tammy Cain


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